Going public…

The plan for a while now has been to go public with our infertility struggle on our transfersary (a year from the date we did our third transfer, resulting in our beautiful baby girl). And we just did! Yikes! It’s a scary thing to be so open with so many people about something that has been such an emotional process for us, but ultimately, we wanted to be able to get the word out about infertility, and hopefully, help someone going through the same thing.  So… This is what I just posted on Facebook! Again…yikes!

 

One year ago today, I became pregnant with our miracle baby, Emily. We know this because she is the result of our third IVF procedure. For most couples, getting pregnant with a take home baby takes about three months. For us, it took three years, two months, and twenty-one days. It took about a hundred doctors appointments, hundreds of injections and blood draws, hundreds of pills, multiple surgeries, and tens of thousands of dollars. Along the way, we had countless heartbreaks. Far too many negative pregnancy tests, but the positive ones were harder to see, as they always ended in loss. We lost 6 babies to failed IVF’s and miscarriages, including Emily’s twin. These losses will always be with us.

Infertility is something that is not spoken of often, but should be. It is not a condition limited to those who pursue children later in life or who have a major medical condition; I was 26 when labeled “infertile.” Healthy, doing everything right, but just not able to get and stay pregnant. The emotional toll an infertility diagnosis takes is incredibly devastating, and is made more challenging because of how isolating it generally is. And to add insult to injury, infertility is not recognized by most states as a condition to mandate insurance coverage for (only 15 states require insurance to cover it), leaving those struggling with infertility to pay for any treatment entirely out of pocket. By “coming out of the closet” so to speak, we hope to be able to help friends talk more openly about their own infertility stories/issues, to encourage our friends and families to sign petitions for state representatives to mandate insurance coverage for infertility treatment, and most of all, to make others aware of how common it is to be dealing with infertility, so it does not remain so taboo to talk about it.

Today is our transfersary, the day we transferred two beautiful frozen embryos to me, Emily and her twin, and is the day we chose to share our story with you all 🙂

To learn more/get involved with infertility research, legislation, etc.- http://www.resolve.org

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About Me

Hi all! I’ve been meaning to set up a blog for a long time…having an outlet to record my thoughts and feelings is a nice way to get through the craziness of the last few years.

So…I’m a married 20-something. I married a football coach, which as anyone in the same position knows, leaves me essentially single for half the year. It’s a bummer when he’s gone, but I can’t imagine my life any other way 🙂

We recently relocated to Colorado from California, which was a big move, but one that has been a great experience so far. It’s allowed me to step back a bit from a very busy, very demanding job, and take a little more time to enjoy all the small things and the beauty in life around me.

Married life has been amazing, and my husband truly is my best friend. I feel so blessed to have him in my life, and am just thrilled with our luck in finding each other so early on in life. We are unfortunately dealing with an infertility diagnosis, which has proven to be the most difficult hurdle either of us has ever faced, and an ever-present cause of grief and frustration. This blog has been a sort of cathartic experience for me, and even though I’m not the best at keeping up at it, it’s still very helpful! Although we are (finally!) expecting our first child, we will always feel the pain and frustration that comes with an infertility diagnosis, and advocate for support (both financial and emotional) for those dealing with this unfortunate situation.

In my spare time, I can be found happily baking, crafting, gardening, spending time with friends, and trying to keep as pleasant a home for my husband and I as possible. And getting ready for baby!!